Getting Passionate, Involved and Emotional.

I visited one of my mentors, and found him to be on the phone with one of his affiliates. From what I heard, the affiliate was doing ok, but seemed to be blaming his lacked passion towards his job. "I thought he was happy. Why do you think he's unhappy? " I asked. This was the answer (long winded answer, but so worth listening to) I received.

A lot of people achieve by luck, or by cheating-or some or other short-cut. They get phenomenal results. Then they go out and buy all the things that say I've arrived. I'm an achiever. And then you talk to people who've gone that route, and you find that their lives are still hollow. You find that they don't have good relationships, and with that someone special-they don't have a good one on one relationship. They're not able to communicate effectively, they feel threatened, and they feel insecure.

When people relate to them, they don't relate effectively, and inside they don't feel very happy with themselves, because they are not getting what they really wanted at the end of the day. What they thought they wanted, they did not really want. They thought they wanted the fancy house and the fancy car, and the fancy lifestyle-but what they really wanted was to be the person who is worthy of the fancy car and house and lifestyle. Now to become the person who is worthy of that lifestyle, you've got to go through a growth process. you've got to overcome your own idiosyncrasies, your own weaknesses, and you've got to develop strengths and skills that were never there before.

The reason we can not get passionate, involved and emotional, is because we tend to be chasing things that we don't really believe are good for us. People know that a certain house brings status-a certain lifestyle brings status-but they don't believe that that kind of status will give them the emotional status. In other words, becoming a better person. Because those things are just symbols to the people around us that we've arrived, or are arriving at a certain point- and what we really want is their acceptance, their love, and their respect. Now to earn respect from someone, you've got to become a phenomenal achiever. If you look at the word respect, it means things like- idolisation-worship the ground one walks upon, etc. and most of us would like to be respected. When people respect you, they do what you say- they do what you do-they follow your example. We would all like to be that kind of person. I could become a lot more passionate, involved and emotional about becoming that kind of person, than by having all those fancy things. Now the amazing thing is, that if I was to become that kind of person, I would automatically have those things, because people achieve quality based on what they are-not their circumstances."

I hope this view makes you think. I wish you every success.